"Don't say anything stupid, Anthony." And in my desire to be liked I'd say nothing at all.
Our desire to “fit in” is evolutionarily bred into us because if you didn’t, the pack would then abandon you to the lions and tigers and bears.
But in modern society, I think the more you can step away from the pack the better off you’ll be, i.e. taking the road less traveled.
This is because repetitive cookie-cutter jobs are getting replaced by machines, which means you’ll get replaced unless you offer something unique and creative and it’s hard to come up with something unique and creative when you're living the same life as everyone else by having the same thoughts and doing the same things.
The end of the 20th century saw the Rise of the Geeks and now we're also seeing the Rise of the Creatives via platforms like, YouTube, Instagram, and Wordpress.
And creativity at its root is imperfect because it’s subjective.
As perfectionists we can tinker with something for hours on end to get it to 100%, but this creates frustration and eventually immobility.
Tell yourself, "Great is good enough!" on a daily basis, especially when you find your perfectionism is stopping you from proceeding.
So have the courage to be imperfect so you can...
When you’re willing to be imperfect you can feel more comfortable in your own skin. No one was ever perfect.
You may say, "Well what about George Washington? He was perfect!" No he had slaves.
What about, "Teddy Roosevelt."
He backstabbed his best friend and then lost the general election anyway to Woodrow Wilson.
What about, "Donald Trump!"
Even if you think a person is "perfect", there are still tradeoffs.
Abraham Lincoln was compassionate, but his compassion led to his depression.
Or maybe you think, "Hey Anthony, but you are so damn good looking." And I'd say maybe that makes me incapable of empathizing with ugly people.
Or you might add, "Hey Anthony, but you are so smart too!", but that can cause a lack of emotional intelligence, i.e. people who are really smart tend to be socially awkward at one end of the spectrum or sociopathic at the other end.
So now that we agree that no one is perfect, the question becomes - how can you courageously embrace imperfection?
I believe it comes down to focusing on your goals and outcomes.
For example, as I write this I'm not too worried about saying something stupid as evidenced by paragraph 18 sentence 2.
I'm more concerned about the goal of this blog post, which is to encourage you to embrace your imperfections so you can give more and live freer.
Let me use a questionable metaphor, It’s like playing pool. You don’t want to focus too much on the cue ball or stick. You’re aware of them, but your focus is on getting it in the hole.
I want us all to get it in the hole.
So the next time you’re feeling stuck or insecure because of your perfectionism, just ask yourself what is your outcome for that situation.
For me my goal is to build a profitable business via Live to Challenge, YouTube, and blogging that offers practical tools and advice to empower millions of people to become 1000% better physically, mentally, and emotionally.
My goal is NOT to make Aunt Theresa, or Professor McNulty, or even my Grandmother approve of my decisions.
I’d like them to, but if they don’t I’m okay with that because I'm too focused on achieving my goals to let my mind dwell on what the spectators are saying.
In other words, get out in the arena! Focus on the lion in front of you by ignoring the cheering or booing (in your head or otherwise) by doing whatever it takes, no matter how imperfectly, no matter how many scratches and bruises you get, to kill that damn lion! Roar.