Anthony Galli Keywords: Self-Improvement Blogger, Founder of Goal-Setting/Bucket List Website, Goal & Habit Challenger
A blog about improving your life through setting goals, forming good habits, taking on personal challenges through sharing my life journey doing all-of-the-above.

THE WHAT, WHY, HOW OF SELF-IMPROVEMENT | THE JOURNEY OF BECOMING BETTER

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First let's explore what I call, The What, Why, How Self-Improvement Cycle.

what, why, how self-improvement cycle

The "HOW" are your habits.

People who aren’t sure what they want to do in life tend to have poorer habits because why bother dealing with the discomfort and patience of creating good habits?

If you don’t have a particular goal in mind why bother exercising when you can watch Netflix, why bother reading when you can sleep, why bother, why bother, why bother?!

why bother with self-improvement?

The "WHAT" are your goals.

You’re not sure what your goals are. Nothing is particularly interesting to you.

I mean certain things sound good, but it's so much work to "run a marathon", "write a book", or "get an A". After the motivation subsides it just becomes drudgery.

loss of motivation for self-improvement

The "WHY" is your purpose.

Your not sure what your purpose is. You just take it day by day. Your only purpose really is to "be happy" and "do good".

But how can you know what your purpose is when no goals inspire you and there are no good habits that you like.

when good habits walk into bad part of town

It's a vicious cycle - you don't have good habits, because you don't have meaningful goals, and you don't have meaningful goals because you don't have a clear purpose and you don't have a clear purpose because you can't stick with any good habits.

HOW TO BREAK THIS CYCLE

I think one of two things will break this cycle -

1) It gets so f*cking bad that you don’t have a choice.

That kind of happened to me. I was miserable and made the decision that I could be miserable and play video games, or I could be miserable and read. I decided on the latter and haven't looked back.

But even before that decision I had high standards for myself, maybe not in school, but ever since I can remember I was always competitive and wanted to be the best. It was never a question of "if" just a matter of "when". My miserableness finally inspired me to say now was the time to get started developing good habits.

That brings me to point two...

2) Raise Your Standards

I believe that if you keep your standards low you'll die with A LOT of regret asking yourself, "What if...", "What if..."

inspirational quote"I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I haven't done." - Lucille Ball

live with no regrets and discover your purpose

HOW TO RAISE YOUR STANDARDS

1. First admit to yourself and a friend that your current situation is unacceptable.

2. Acknowledge that it's about the journey of progressing every day for the rest of your life - not a particular destination (life isn't suppose to be easy).

3. Settle on your WHY

Examples:

inspirational quoteHelp those suffering from mental illness because...

inspirational quoteMake people laugh because...

inspirational quoteExplore the depths of the ocean because...

inspirational quoteMake sure my grandchildren are happy and healthy because...

inspirational quoteEmpower disadvantaged children because...

inspirational quoteProvide people an escape through art because...

inspirational quoteAlter the course of my family legacy because...

I think if you connect your purpose to a personal experience it'll make your purpose more motivating.

4. List all the things that would help your WHY succeed.

Spend at least an hour on this, making bullet and sub-bullet points. Really let your imagination run wild. Maybe do some research to even take it to the next level.

5. Then put a checkmark next to each of those things you "can" do. NOT what you'd "like" to do.

Your WHY is bigger than you. To truly be successful I think you have to put your WHY above your own personal desires. With that said, the better you get at something the more you'll eventually like it.

6. Create your WHAT, WHY, HOW sheet. At the top of your page, put your WHY, then list your WHAT and HOW. For a digital version go to www.livetochallenge.com.

7. Get started TODAY on the first thing on your list. Don't wait until you "feel" like it. Do it now and resolve to work toward your WHY every day.

YOU'RE WEIRD, ODD, QUIRKY, AND PECULIAR. | HOW TO EMBRACE IMPERFECTION

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"Don't say anything stupid, Anthony." And in my desire to be liked I'd say nothing at all.

inspirational quote"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind" - Dr. Seuss

Our desire to “fit in” is evolutionarily bred into us because if you didn’t, the pack would then abandon you to the lions and tigers and bears.

Don't fit in and try to be perfect like everyone else.

But in modern society, I think the more you can step away from the pack the better off you’ll be, i.e. taking the road less traveled.

inspirational quote"Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect." - Mark Twain

This is because repetitive cookie-cutter jobs are getting replaced by machines, which means you’ll get replaced unless you offer something unique and creative and it’s hard to come up with something unique and creative when you're living the same life as everyone else by having the same thoughts and doing the same things.

Penguins brainstorming no unique ideas all the same.

The end of the 20th century saw the Rise of the Geeks and now we're also seeing the Rise of the Creatives via platforms like, YouTube, Instagram, and Wordpress.

And creativity at its root is imperfect because it’s subjective.

As perfectionists we can tinker with something for hours on end to get it to 100%, but this creates frustration and eventually immobility.

Tell yourself, "Great is good enough!" on a daily basis, especially when you find your perfectionism is stopping you from proceeding.

So have the courage to be imperfect so you can...

1. GET MORE DONE
2. LIVE FREE

When you’re willing to be imperfect you can feel more comfortable in your own skin. No one was ever perfect.

You may say, "Well what about George Washington? He was perfect!" No he had slaves.

What about, "Teddy Roosevelt."

He backstabbed his best friend and then lost the general election anyway to Woodrow Wilson.

What about, "Donald Trump!"

Moving on...

Even if you think a person is "perfect", there are still tradeoffs.

Abraham Lincoln was compassionate, but his compassion led to his depression.

Or maybe you think, "Hey Anthony, but you are so damn good looking." And I'd say maybe that makes me incapable of empathizing with ugly people.

Or you might add, "Hey Anthony, but you are so smart too!", but that can cause a lack of emotional intelligence, i.e. people who are really smart tend to be socially awkward at one end of the spectrum or sociopathic at the other end.

A nerd whose socially awkward and imperfect, but smart.

So now that we agree that no one is perfect, the question becomes - how can you courageously embrace imperfection?

I believe it comes down to focusing on your goals and outcomes.

For example, as I write this I'm not too worried about saying something stupid as evidenced by paragraph 18 sentence 2.

I'm more concerned about the goal of this blog post, which is to encourage you to embrace your imperfections so you can give more and live freer.

Let me use a questionable metaphor, It’s like playing pool. You don’t want to focus too much on the cue ball or stick. You’re aware of them, but your focus is on getting it in the hole.

I want us all to get it in the hole.

Martin Luther King was imperfect but he believed his cause was perfect.
MLK focused more on his goals than the criticism and hatred.

So the next time you’re feeling stuck or insecure because of your perfectionism, just ask yourself what is your outcome for that situation.

For me my goal is to build a profitable business via Live to Challenge, YouTube, and blogging that offers practical tools and advice to empower millions of people to become 1000% better physically, mentally, and emotionally.

My goal is NOT to make Aunt Theresa, or Professor McNulty, or even my Grandmother approve of my decisions.

I’d like them to, but if they don’t I’m okay with that because I'm too focused on achieving my goals to let my mind dwell on what the spectators are saying.

In other words, get out in the arena! Focus on the lion in front of you by ignoring the cheering or booing (in your head or otherwise) by doing whatever it takes, no matter how imperfectly, no matter how many scratches and bruises you get, to kill that damn lion! Roar.

Fight the lion instead of worrying about your imperfections.

HOW TO GET INSPIRED EVERY DAY | TIPS & BENEFITS

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Where are you on the "inspiration scale"?

This is the frequency in which you feel inspired on a daily basis - I didn't make this up.

In my opinion this scale is far more important than the weight scale, but I digress...

inspirational scale

According to researchers Todd Thrash and Andrew Elliot, those who are MORE WILLING to experience inspiration are MORE LIKELY to experience it.

BUT WHY GET INSPIRED?!

• Greater Focus

inspiration benefit is focus
I don't mean a Ford Focus.

In capitalism - "negativity sells."

I'm currently in Bangkok, and you can see firsthand how capitalism has lifted millions of people out of poverty.

But at the same time you can see the traffic congestion, smog, prostitution, billboards of beautiful models holding knock-off coca-cola bottles.

You must fight the good fight by surrounding yourself with inspiration so you can be reminded of what truly matters!

• Greater Productivity

inspiration benefit is productivity

I'm more productive when I'm inspired because it's funnier and easier to enter "flow" state according to the research.

HOW CAN YOU GET INSPIRED DAILY?

inspiration habit challengeSTART 30 DAY CHALLENGE

Absorb 20 min of Inspiration Daily (i.e. read, watch, listen

• Read over goals, values, mission statement.

• I get inspired by documentaries about people who are passionate about a skill or trade, like in, Iris, Dreams of Sushi, I'm Not Your Guru.

• While working or cleaning, I'll sometimes play a favorite song or inspirational talk on repeat.

inspiration goal challengeSTART GOAL CHALLENGE

Save 100 Inspiring Things by XX/XX/XXXX

• Post-It Notes with Quotes, Goals, Values, etc...

inspirational quote"People often say that inspiration doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily." - Zig Ziglar

• Save an inspirational image as your screen saver or background.

• Décor. Maybe clear out some of the junk before making room for more inspiration.

• Save Inspirational Music & Speeches.

• Upload inspirational quotes and images to Live to Challenge.

HOW TO MAKE WRITING A HABIT | TIPS & BENEFITS

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The most powerful weapon in human history is the written word!

how to make writing a habit

The written word can be used to incite good -

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”

Abraham Lincoln wouldn’t have been able to unite the United States without his words of encouragement during the darkest points of the war.

how to make writing a habit to be like lincoln

Or the written word could be used to incite hatred of the jews.

But why should you write if you don’t intend to build empires or kill jews?

There are numerous benefits of writing, but personally I can speak to how writing has made me more more emotionally centered and knowledgable.

how to make writing a habit so you can make sense of your feelings

I don't internalize my feelings damn it! Stop asking!

Okay maybe a little, but writing helps me feel better than "talking it out". Leave me alone! I'm fine.

For example, after a break up I felt better dumping out all my thoughts and feelings about the past, present, and future. It gave me a greater sense of closure.

Writing down how you feel gives your mind permission to stop dwelling on it.

Writing has also made me more knowledgeable.

By writing down and analyzing what I learned from books, videos, and life I'm better able to recall that information and apply those lessons.

7 TIPS FOR MAKING WRITING A HABIT

1. Write down “why” you want to make writing a habit. Once you believe in the “why” it’s easier to overcome “how”.

2. See yourself as a writer. What we label ourselves impacts what we do. If you identify yourself, for example, as a “fat” person then it’s a lot harder to stick with healthy habits.

3. Commit to writing for a set amount of days, i.e. 15, 30, 50, etc. Then at the end of the challenge you can reevaluate if you want to stick with the writing habit (but not before!).

4. Commit to which days you’ll write. I suggest doing it daily, but at the very least do it weekly. If you decide to do it weekly then pick an exact day every week and set a reminder so you don’t forget!

5. Set a trigger. For example, “AFTER I sit down with my morning cup of coffee I WILL write 500 words.” This makes the habit harder to forget and quicker to form.

writing can be torture.

6. Do what’s fun. When you’re starting out I don’t suggest building the habit by writing thesis papers (unless you’re into that sort of thing you sick freak!). Maybe get your 500 words in by starting a Tumblr blog, journaling on Day One, posting long descriptions to your Instagram photos, or emailing friends to be pen pals.

7. Recognize you’ll feel discomfort forming any new habit. This is a good thing because it means you’re pushing yourself outside your comfort zone. If the discomfort is too much then cut down on the number of days and words you have to do and seek new ways to make it fun.

my personal mission statement makes me excited.

Don’t let the longest thing you ever write be an angry text to a former lover.

Build the habit of writing and you’ll begin your journey of becoming 1,000% better than before.

CALL TO ACTION

Start writing today! Begin by writing “why” you want to make writing a habit.

I KNOW WHAT MY MISSION IN LIFE IS!

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My mission is to improve your life by 1,000%.

Impossible?

No!

It'll be hard, but I haven't been this excited since I drove by cheerleaders washing cars.

my personal mission statement makes me excited.

I think striving for a 1,000% improvement is better than 0% and it's better than "perfect". If you strive for "perfect" or "optimal" you just end up driving yourself crazy.

Now let's be clear - I'm not disguising myself as an Indian Guru or Buddhist Monk or Billionaire Entrepreneur.

Galli as a Guru

This is not a cock fight or gladiator match to see who is the most personally developed person in the room.

I'm just sharing what I've learned the last 9 years studying personal development and how it has helped me be 1,000% better than the path someone like me (given my history) would have normally gone down.

how to make blogging everyday a habit sitting in good blogging spot

I want to help you become 1,000% better because a better you makes for a better world for us.

Over the next few months I'll write about each of the 10 keystone habits. Subscribe so you don't miss one!

Consider this the 101 course for personal development, which will serve as a fantastic starting point or a nice refresher.

DAILY KEYSTONE HABITS

1. Write 500 Words
2. Actively Seek Inspiration
3. Meditate
4. Read 20 min
5. Exercise 20 min
6. Stretch
7. Walk 10,000 Steps
8. Eat Healthy Foods
9. Review Goals
10. Do a Random Act of Kindness

If you're ever in a rut these are the fundamentals to get your life back on track!

I think you can predict a person's success & well-being by how many of these habits a person consistently does.

"Your level of success will seldom exceed your level of personal development." - Jim Rohn

Top performers regularly do seven to ten of these habits, such as, George Washington, Charles Darwin, Bill Gates, Tony Robbins, and Tim Ferris.

QUESTION OF THE DAY

How many of these keystone habits do you do every day? Comment Here.